As often happens via social media, a stimulating quote by Buddhist teacher Ken McLeod found its way into my email box.
“What is freedom? It is the moment-by-moment experience of not being run by one’s own reactive mechanisms.”
This idea immediately caught my fancy. As I churned over its meaning, I was reminded of another quote, widely attributed to Viktor Frankl:
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
Much like Frankl, when I first read McLeod’s quote, I associated freedom with expanded choice. Meanwhile, I played with multiple associations to no longer being run by one’s own reactive mechanisms. As an author with a specialty in interpersonal neurobiology, I associate non-reactivity with an expanded window of affect tolerance, allowing the possibility of fielding ever more intense emotion and higher arousal levels, without any loss of cognitive wherewithal. As a clinician with a specialty in creativity as well as a ballet and jazz dancer, I associate non-reactivity with the capacity to take in multiple channels of sensory and perceptual information while simultaneously attending to interoceptive and proprioceptive cues about my own body’s states, actions and spatial placement. As a longtime yogini and yoga teacher, I associate non-reactivity with the equanimity of a warrior pose, where intense sensation is held with ease and grace, without pinpoint attention highlighting the ache in my quad or the thought in my head. When I am most non-reactive during yoga, my attention fans out in all directions, well beyond the confines of my body or mind, equally embracing internal and external realms, which feels like the ultimate freedom in mind/body/spirit.
After these musings about non-reactivity and freedom from my own subjective point of view, I felt impelled to look more closely at McLeod’s essay in which the quote was embedded (originally appearing in 2012, as a blog in the Huffington post). To my surprise, McLeod’s understanding of freedom did not include expanded choice at all— quite the opposite! This Zen practitioner described freedom as emerging directly from the tight discipline of restricted choice, which he experienced directly in his three years of monastic life. While studying Tibetan Buddhism, McLeod’s schedule was rigidly fixed, with his choices whittled down to a bare minimum, e.g., which of three pieces of clothes to wear. It was under these highly restricted conditions that McLeod experienced full freedom for self-discovery.
McLeod cites the problem of too much choice within contemporary society. We are often flooded with an overabundance of choices—which shampoo to buy? What restaurant to go to next? As he describes it, much time and energy becomes siphoned away in making such choices. From an academic perspective, social psychological research by Barry Schwartz indicates that too many choices increase anxiety and restrict enjoyment of choices made, which is proven especially true for wine selections and other food products. For McLeod, only when stripped of all choices did he experience full freedom to face his innermost core without distraction.
After moving beyond the initial quote and reading McLeod’s blog, I was left a bit stunned at the contrast from my expectations. At the same time, I pride myself on resilience and flexibility, both mentally and physically. What is more, as a lover of paradox, I quite easily made the pivot. I then began to look more deeply at my own perspective as a clinical psychologist. My focus landed on clinical intuition, the subject of two of my recent Norton books on interpersonal neurobiology. In the heat of a charged moment, when feelings or arousal are high, things can move really fast. When I thought about it, what emerges during this fast-paced dance of psychotherapy does seem less about choice and more about courage—the courage to say what needs to be said or sometimes the courage to remain silent when words have no place.
Next, I recalled my own interventions with patients struggling to make a decision. Rather than succumb to advice-giving, my impulse is often to declare the person un-ready to choose, and in need of more time and/or information. I’m not a big fan of check lists of pros and cons; these tend to encourage left-brain analysis rather than right-brain intuition. Lists like this, alongside other left-brain activities, can’t accommodate the complexity of full context. Not only do they sidestep intuition, but they also bypass wisdom. As an alternative, I’m an advocate of more time and internal space to allow choices to simmer in the unconscious. I trust that the “right” (meaning best fit) answer will emerge ready-made, in its own time, when the time is right. I believe we don’t make decisions, but rather decisions make us.
I next remembered the work of Benjamin Libet, a neurobiological researcher who writes about “brain time.” Through a very clever research paradigm, Libet discovered areas of the brain areas buried deep in the unconscious that light up even before we register a conscious decision to execute an action. He provocatively concluded that humans don’t possess “free will” at all, only “free won’t.” Libet declares free will a trick of the mind constructed after the fact. Libet’s understanding of free won’t involves inhibition, or the freedom not to act on an impulse in motion.
On a roll, I next considered Cziksenmihalyi’s concept of flow, both as it applies to the creative process as well as to psychotherapy. When immersed in flow within any domain, we surrender ourselves to a course of action already in process. There is an emergent feel to what is happening. Nobody seems to be doing any deciding or choosing, although here too, we can exercise free won’t by stopping the process. But when carried away by the currents of flow, the inherent freedom seems less about choice and more about clarity of understanding plus a sense of purpose, which automatically and spontaneously dictates a clear path between perception and response.
Whether within the constricted choices of a meditation regime, the emergent choices of difficult decisions, or the absence of choices within our surrender to flow, perhaps freedom does convey more the feeling of fate and necessity than the feeling of an open playing field. In the spiritual realm, this kind of non-reactivity conforms to the Buddhist notion of perfection as illustrated later in McLeod’s essay. A young man asks McLeod, his meditation teacher, the following question,
“When he reaches the perfection of wisdom, can a bodhisattva choose to do whatever he wants?” a young man asked.
“The illusion of choice is an indication of a lack of freedom,” I replied.
He looked at me, stunned, then turned around and gently banged his head against the wall as he said, “Now my head really hurts.”
Here perfection has more to do with the Eastern notion of perfect fit, which means that everything is interconnected and interdependent perfectly. This stands in contrast to the Western notion of perfection implicit in perfectionism, where we suffer from the illusion that things need to be different than how they are in any given moment.
I conclude this blog entry by announcing an about face in where I stand relative to where I started. I have reached the conclusion that the freedom of non-reactivity is less about expanded choice, and more about expanded openness to meet and greet the fullness of what already exists, without judgment or recoil. When we open our hearts, minds, and bodies in this way, we can allow ourselves to be moved where we need to go, both literally and figuratively, as we surrender to the response that emerges unbidden from the depth of the implicit realm within.
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