How can our clients move beyond the fear that’s impacting their life?
Fear can block them from connecting with the people they love, stifle their creativity, and cloud their judgment when they need it most.
So how can we help them get beyond their fears to live more connected, happy, and vibrant lives?
Tara Brach, PhD has a strategy for helping people escape the fear that can have a paralyzing hold on them. You can get in on it here. It’s completely free, thanks to our friends at NICABM.
She’ll share how your clients can live without fear ruling their thoughts and decisions.
This won’t be available for long, so please go ahead and check it out now.
Tara Brach, PhD, On 2 – 3 Steps to escape a fear-worry loop
One of our family’s favorite jokes was about a woman who sent her son a telegram: It said, start worrying, details to follow.
How many of your clients might resonate with this?
The word worry comes from the old English word meaning “to strangle.” When we are worrying, we are anxious: we are constricted and stressed in a way that is not good for our bodies, our relationships, or our lives.
So I’d like to share something with you that can help your clients radically reduce the grip of anxiety, of non-stop worry. And it’s just three steps.
But first, it’s helpful for clients to understand the difference between fear and anxiety.
Fear is the emotional state that arises in response to a perceived immediate threat. Someone pulls out a gun. Our child runs into a busy street. And we immediately feel afraid.
Our heart starts pounding, our body secretes stress chemicals, we sweat, our digestion shuts down, blood flows to our arms and legs so that we can fight or run away. So how is that different from anxiety?
Well, anxiety is the emotional state that arises in response to an anticipated threat…to the perception that things “might go wrong.” So in a nutshell, fear relates to immediate danger, while anxiety comes from a possible future threat.
Now even though they aren’t the same, they both have the same physiological response. And when prolonged, this response causes emotional and physical damage. What’s worse, anxiety can easily become chronic. In fact, it’s fair to say that many clients can become addicted to their anxious thoughts. So how does this happen?
Well, it’s because of something I call mind-body “looping.” You might think of it like this . . .
Say you are worried about an upcoming date, or a business trip, or finishing a project on time. You start thinking about the future, and that arouses anxiety, not just in your thoughts about what can go wrong, but in your body as well. And those physical feelings can generate more anxious thoughts.
The problem is – this looping becomes so habitual that some clients end up moving through life with generalized anxiety. Their thoughts become like heat-seeking missiles searching for something to worry about.
Sadly, these anxious thoughts about the future compromise our enjoyment of the present moment. And typically, they are distorted and false.
I like the way Mark Twain put it – he was known to have said, “Some of the worst things in my life never even happened.” So how do we successfully release chronic anxiety?
Well, over the years, in working with many people—both psychotherapy clients and meditation students–I’ve realized it comes down to developing three key skills ..you might think of it as a 3-step mindfulness practice. Now this is a practice you could use in your work with clients. But for now, let me tell you the steps and then I’ll walk you through them one at a time.
Step 1- Become mindful of your anxious thoughts;
Step 2- Drop into your body and become mindful of the physical sensations you experience;
Step 3- Offer yourself some comfort or care.
There’s a bit more to each one of these steps and Tara takes you a little deeper into these steps in her free video – You can get in on it here.